There is the great lesson of Beauty and the Beast, that a thing must be loved before it is lovable. ~G.K. Chesterton
So it came as quite a
surprise shock to me when I found out some Christian homes did not promote princess-y things while their daughters were growing up. I'll be honest, I automatically thought, "What?! I bet you hate puppies, rainbows, cotton candy, and you go around telling little kids Santa doesn't exist too!" But then I realized it wasn't fair for me to jump to such conclusions, so I tried to hear these freaks people out. The conversation mostly circled around four words: entitled, spoiled, materialistic, and selfish. I found myself agreeing with their concerns. If we're promoting princesses in a Toddlers & Tiaras fashion (such a horrible show by the way) or teaching young girls that they're entitled to be treated "royally" then I agree. But to basically "ban" princess play altogether or think princesses are shallow role models is going off the deep end in my opinion. Cue one of my favorite quotes from philosophy:
Know, first who you are, and then adorn yourself accordingly. ~Epictetus
Who are we? We are all sinners, young and old. Children are not exempt from this. And because we're all sinners, we're not entitled to a life of royal treatment. What we're really entitled to is death and separation from God (i.e. hell). But, out of God's rich, abundant mercy and love for us, His sons and daughters, He sent Jesus to pay the penalty for our sins so that we may have relationship with THE King and eternal life with Him in Heaven. This is THE great rescue. Even our fairy tales in some small fragmented way echo this: The prince rescuing the one he love, marrying her, and making her his princess. I'm not saying it's a perfect analogy altogether, but some fairy tales do hint at it, and just maybe that's why we like them. Or at least that's what this wise man once said...
We have come from God, and inevitably the myths woven by us, though they contain error, will also reflect a splintered fragment of the true light, the eternal truth that is with God. ~J.R.R. Tolkien
We teach children that they are sinful, but we illuminate the gospel as well: Yes, we are sinners once dead in our trespasses, but now we're alive in Christ. We're the bride He has taken, washed cleaned, and adorned by Him, in order to walk in freedom and glorify Him. In turn, how does the Christian adorn herself? Colossians tells us to...
Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. ~Colossians 3:12-17To break it down, as Christ's daughters, we put off the old self, and put on the new, cultivating our hearts, minds, and spirits in what I'll just call the marks of God's princesses for this post:
- Compassionate Hearts
- Humility and Meekness
- Position Self/Make Room For Christ's Peace
- Hide His Word in Heart (Leads to Wisdom)
- Give God the Glory
And on that note, I end with this, for old time sakes...
*More Food for Thought: Three Objections to Fairy Tales and C.S. Lewis's Response